
Many times women feel they need to conform to the organization’s rules. Don't forget that we can also make rules at work, and by challenging the status quo, we are actually demonstrating leadership. Don't be terrified of not following all the rules. Also, when you see others "bending" the rules, sometimes its just best to lock your mouth and keep it movin...
Cynthia Cooper of WorldCom's financial auditing department reported misappropriation of massive amounts of money when her management told her to ignore inappropriate accounting procedures. Although she received praise from strangers for her courage, coworkers blamed and shunned her.
FBI staff attorney Coleen Rowley came forward with the truth about inappropriate handling of evidence of terrorist activity prior to the attacks of September 11th. Even though Time magazine named her one of the three "Persons of the Year" she was treated like a pariah by fellow FBI staffers.
The book isn't saying that women shouldn't act according to their conscience, moral and ethical standards, but they do point out that women are far more likely than men to point out variance between company policy and practice. Most men have no difficulty with bending the rules as needed when its a case of "no harm, no foul." Take this for example:
Jade was an executive assistant to the VP of Marketing at a large Entertainment Company. Her boss routinely arrived late for work and expected that Jade would "cover" for him. When the division President would call at nine-thirty, Jade would feel uncomfortable saying that her boss was "in a meeting" or had "stepped away from the desk". Similarly if her boss was late completing his expense report, he would change the dates to the current week so that he could be reimbursed for expenses incurred earlier in the week or month.
At first Jade would remind her boss of the rules, but she eventually got fed up and went to HR. HR, on the other hand, knew the norms of this company and "suggested" that she should be more cooperative with her boss if she wanted to have a successful relationship with him. Jade wasn't havin that and after some time asked to be transferred to another Executive. This caused Jade to be branded as a "prude" and she experienced difficulty getting promotions and transfers in the future.
The point of the story is this:
Weigh the benefit of pointing out minor infractions in company policy against the potential consequences. Life works this way too.... Everyone breaks the speed limit, or stretches the truth. The same thing happens in the work place. In Cynthia Cooper and Coleen Rowley's case, they saved lives and large amounts of money and the consequences were enormous for the company. But most of us, however, simply need to understand the realities of the workplace... and how blowing the whistle may come back to haunt you in the future...
My advice? Use your discretion. Don't rock the boat if you don't need to. So what if your boss is having an affair, or if he took a bunch of clients to the strip club. As long as he's not bringing you down with him, stay in your lane and keep it movin - you will get rewarded for it in the future because your boss knows that you've got his back. That's my two cents... but to each his own...
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