It may be true that good things come to those who wait, but women take the maxim to an extreme. When the term impatient is applied to a man, it means he's a go-getter, always on the go, or ready to move ahead. When the same term is applied to a woman, it means she expects too much, has a sense of entitlement, doesn't understand how it works around here, or is a NAG...
I.E. A woman is promised a promotion and is told to "wait". So she waits... and waits... and waits some more. After six months of waiting, her boss is transferred to another division. When the woman asks about her promotion before he leaves, he tells her the new person will handle it. Of course you know what happened. The new person came in and knew nothing about the promotion -- nor did they care.
TIPS:
- The sqeaky wheel DOES get the grease -- and it won't soil your skirt. When asked, an executive said that they have no problem if someone pushes him once, pushes him twice, buth three times is too many. So until you've pushed at least once, you haven't advocated for yourself...
- When you're told to be more patient, ask the person to give you an idea of when you should revisit the matter. If a time too far in the future is suggested, press for a time frame that meets your needs. I.E. "Thats much longer than I had anticipated or we had oiginally discussed. Why don't we say in two weeks rather than a month"
- If you're asked to wait longer than you think is needed, ask politely and professional for a reason why. There may be a legitimate reason; if there isn't, you can explore other options you may have.
Ladies... Do you agree??
Another tip from one of my fave books "Nice Girls Don't get the Corner Office"... I hope you like it!!
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2 Women have something to say:
I always love the career tips!
I always say, you rarely get what you don't ask for. Employers are rarely jumping up and down to give you that raise, that bigger office, your own assistant... whatever it is. They may recognize in April that you should be promoted but won't tell you or actually promote you until August.
I remember being in one job where I was doing the job of about 4 different people. I asked for a raise and got about 4% more. Fought it (with backed up proof)and ended up with a 25% increase.
SO I think the concept of waiting applies to time but also to getting what you deserve in general...
I agree w/ these. I hate double standards and its def important but not easy to find ur balance as a woman in a business setting. Btw i <3 the site. i just hopped over from thosegirlsarewild after watching the feminism vid to check this site out. Im gonna b a regular now. :)
Mucho love-o.
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